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Isolation is a form of abuse often closely connected to controlling behaviors. It is not an isolated behavior, but the outcome of many kinds of abusive behaviors.
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Abuse takes many forms
Children Abuse
What Is Child Abuse and Neglect? Recognizing the Signs and Symptoms
Family Abuse
Family abuse: What it is and how to identify it
Abuse at Work
Workplace abuse or bullying happens when a person in power takes power from a less powerful employee.
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There might not be enough family or community support to make it on their own. There may be cultural norms that ingrain a policy of “don't talk about it.” They may be too ashamed to leave and accept help, when it is normal in their culture to keep abuse a secret.
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Abuse at Work
Repeated verbal harassment, such as the use of insulting remarks, slurs, vulgarities, physical or verbal action that a reasonable person might consider threatening, frightening, or embarrassing, or the intentional undermining or undercutting of a person's job performance are all examples of abusive conduct. An employer or employee's conduct in the workplace that a normal individual would find inhospitable, insulting, and unconnected to the employer's legitimate economic objectives is done with malice. A single act of abuse will not be considered abusive unless it is very severe and heinous.
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Inappropriate or lewd remarks
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Unwanted sexual advances
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Inappropriate or offensive comments about a person’s gender
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Sexually explicit letters, pictures, texts, or emails
Couple Abuse
Domestic abuse, also called "domestic violence" or "intimate partner violence", can be defined as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner. Abuse is physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure, or wound someone. Domestic abuse can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion, or gender. It can occur within a range of relationships including couples who are married, living together or dating. Domestic violence affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels.
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Make you feel like you are unable to make decisions?
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Use drugs or alcohol as an excuse for saying hurtful things or abusing you?
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Blame you for how they feel or act?
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Make you feel like there is “no way out” of the relationship?
Child Abuse
Any intentional harm or mistreatment to a child under 18 years old is considered child abuse. Child abuse takes many forms, which often occur at the same time.
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Physical abuse. Physical child abuse occurs when a child is purposely physically injured or put at risk of harm by another person.
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Emotional abuse. Emotional child abuse means injuring a child's self-esteem or emotional well-being. It includes verbal and emotional assault — such as continually belittling or berating a child — as well as isolating, ignoring or rejecting a child.
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Neglect. Child neglect is failure to provide adequate food, clothing, shelter, clean living conditions, affection, supervision, education, or dental or medical care.
types of abuses
What Are They?
According to the American Psychological Association, abuse is cruelty, violence, or invasive behavior from one person to another person or animals, causing physical, sexual, psychological, or emotional harm.
Physical abuse
When one person harms another person and causes injury to the body.
Sexual abuse
Any form of sexual violence or exploitation.
Psychological or emotional abuse
When one person purposely harms the mental wellbeing of another person in a non-physical way, sometimes referred to as nonphysical abuse.
Financial or material abuse
The misuse or taking of money, assets, or belongings of another person for personal gain, sometimes by coercion, threats, or deception.
Domestic violence or intimate partner violence
When a person physically harms their partner.
Discriminatory abuse
When one person treats another person differently based on race, gender, disability, sexual orientation, religion, disability, or other characteristics, causing harm in favoring others, creating disadvantages, harassment, victimization, or other actions.
Neglect or abandonment
When a person responsible for the care of another person does not provide the needed care or leaves them without care. This can be the neglect of a child, older person, disabled or ill person, or anyone in need of care.
Workplace violence or organizational/institutional abuse
Intimidation or physical force relating to employment and the employment environment.
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Symptoms of abuse
What are the symptoms of abuse
Sleep problems and nightmares
Frequent absences from school
Depression, anxiety or unusual fears
Rebellious or defiant behavior
sudden loss of self-confidence
Loss of self-confidence or self-esteem
Self-harm or attempts at suicide
Sleep problems and nightmares
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Types of Domestic Violence
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Sexual Abuse
Sexual abuse is using sex in an exploitative fashion or forcing sex on another person. Having consented to sexual activity in the past does not indicate current consent. Sexual abuse may involve both verbal and physical behavior.
Control
Controlling behavior is a way for the abuser to maintain dominance over the victim. Controlling behavior, the belief that they are justified in the controlling behavior, and the resultant abuse is the core issue in domestic violence. It is often subtle, almost always insidious, and pervasive.
Physical Abuse
According to the AMEND Workbook for Ending Violent Behavior, physical abuse is any physically aggressive behavior, withholding of physical needs, indirect physically harmful behavior, or threat of physical abuse.
Emotional Abuse and Intimidation
According to the AMEND Workbook for Ending Violent Behavior, emotional abuse is any behavior that exploits another’s vulnerability, insecurity, or character. Such behaviors include continuous degradation, intimidation, manipulation, brainwashing, or control of another to the detriment of the individual
Verbal Abuse
Coercion, Threats, & Blame: Verbal abuse is any abusive language used to denigrate, embarrass or threaten the victim.
Economic Abuse
Financial abuse is a way to control the victim through manipulation of economic resources.
Stalking Abuse
Stalking abuse can take many forms:
- Mailing cards or other cryptic messages
- Breaking windows, breaking into or vandalizing partner’s home
- Taking partner’s mail
- Leaving things, such as flowers on doorstep or at work
- Watching partner from a distance
- Hang-up calls on the telephone
- Following partner with a car or on foot
- Hiding in bushes or other surveillance of partner’s home
- Surveillance of partner at work
- Other trespassing
- Vandalizing partner’s property
- Destroying property to scare or intimidate partner
- Stealing things from partner
- Breaking into partner’s house or car
- Filing numerous pleadings in court cases
- Filing for custody of children regardless of their needs
- Not respecting visitation limitations
- Harassing telephone calls or notes
- Violation of restraining orders
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If you are in immediate danger, call 911.
Find local help in our search or call the national hotline:
800-799-SAFE (7233)
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National Center for Victims of Crime
855-4-VICTIM (855-484-2846)
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